Journey, In viaggio col dolore

10. FLASH. Love for oneself.

The issue of loving oneself is a long and complicated story, the story of a lifetime!
We understood that it is not selfish to love and give oneself good, carve out spaces in which to be in the company of ourselves, practice a job or activity that reflect and correspond to us, because what do we give if we do not take the path first? If we do not experience love firsthand? What if we don't know our unique way of sharing and giving love?
"It is useless to seek who completes you. Nobody completes anyone. You have to be complete by yourself to be happy."
Eric Fromm
Loving me meant giving me good food, living in a nice place with a good climate, having my time as I preferred, practicing meditation and awareness and hanging out with people who were in tune with my ideas and principles, making music, being creative, express myself, discovering that  
"Where we have stopped dancing, singing, being carried away by a story, or finding comfort in silence, is where we have lost contact with our soul.
Dance, singing, telling a story, and silence are the four universal balsamic medicines ".
Angeles Arrien, Ph.D. cultural anthropologist Author of 'The Four-Fold Way' and 'Signs of Life.'
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But that wasn't enough! Now I eat not always healthy food because I can't do anything else, I don't have a fixed abode, I see who happens, but I discover that I love myself more than before!
Because love for me is not 'only' that (which in any case is part of an indispensable practice) but is re-acting on a pattern in which I was from birth.
Today, love for me means having shaken off the 'myself' that I interpreted, the frustrated victim, and unwanted last wheel of the wagon.
"Change the habit of being yourself."
Joe Dispenza
A big important step I took to love myself was rediscovering the conscious connection (and nurture it!) With my feminine intuition. Loving my instincts, and loving my infinite inner world that for years scared me to contact.
"There is no greater blessing a mother can give her daughter than a reliable sense of the veracity of her intuition."
Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés, American female poet, Jungian psychoanalyst, and specialist in post-traumatic therapies. Her book "Women Who Run With Wolves" remained on the New York Times Best Sellers list for 145 weeks.
I end with this beautiful, wise sentence by a young contemporary female poet and artist: Rupi Kaur, considered one of the most influential contemporary instapoets (young poets who publish verses mainly on social media).
"The way you love yourself is the way you teach others to love you."
Rupi Kaur